SUGGESTION FOR SUCCESS

A poster captioned ‘suggestion for success’, fixed near the work desk of a Public Prosecutor whom I visited recently struck me - jotted the tips down there and I upload them here; 

  

SUGGESTION FOR SUCCESS

 Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

 Be forgiving of yourself and others.

 Be generous.

  Have a grateful heart.

 Persistence, Persistence, Persistence.

 Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

 Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

 Commit yourself to quality.

 Be loyal.

 Be honest.

 Be a self- starter.

 Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

Take good care of those you love. 

   

    ...........But actually the very first entry in the above list of suggestions which I took away to avoid distractions from rest of the above really useful and very good motivational guidelines was....,

    - 'Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.....' 

As per the Saivite philosophy, the nature of the soul is that it is affected by its environment or rather associations. So association with the right persons would enhance a person’s caliber to multi folds. Saivite religion calls upon the devotees to revere, mingle and be in the company of the devotees to sustain and nurture the spiritual value system – i.e. ‘jangama worship principle’. In other traditions it is 'sath sanga'

Personal Excellence gurus also advice us to join the club of people with similar aspirations in life.   

From my understanding of literary and philosophical perceptions of the Tamil tradition  - and out of my own observations - I am bold enough to surmise that almost all the households of this country ONCE should have been constructed on the deep and soulful connections between the members - 'in spite of' every other factors...... 

I also tend to guess, the neo -urban, inhuman, modern upcoming life style has imposed an appearance conscious, materially weighing, impatient and unintelligent attitudinal wedge which perhaps thwart many a family units and other bonds which actually constitute the bricks of the country. 

'IN SPITE OF' appears to be the key word. 

However the 'strong' i.e. infact 'matured' family units and other bonds help the success of individuals and the country. Recent Tamil films, 'Abiyum Naanum' and ‘Pasanga’ are pitched on the themes of conjugal conundrums and conciliation  portrayed in realistic and beautiful ways.